Hello my friends!
Last time we talked, we were discussing fear and doubt, and before we even got too far in, I told you that there were benefits of both of them, remember?
I want to write to you about Self-pity today, because I know there is absolutely nothing beneficial about this character.
Self-pity is the Ultimate Road to Failure
- If you feel sorry for yourself enough, you won’t even try to move toward your goals. There is no need, you will fail anyway.
- If you compare your failure to other people’s success, but refuse to recognize their hard work and sacrifice, you can just tell yourself that you can never be as successful as they are.
- Self-pity is addictive. Once you’ve mastered the making of this self-indulgent bed of misery, it’s really easy to curl up in it, instead of risking any actual time and energy to do anything different.
- Self-pity becomes an insidious pit of slime that will bury you. The bed of misery then becomes your coffin. All your goals, plans, and dreams go with you.
We don’t even like other people to feel sorry for us, why do we do this to ourselves?
Stop the Insanity: Redirect your Mind
- Take action! Do anything that you can, even small steps towards your goals on a consistent basis. Idleness is a Chuck E Cheese for the devil. Don’t be his playground.
- Comparing ourselves to other people will always be the apples to oranges comparison. Our makeup, our backgrounds, our circumstances, our goals, are all different from anyone else’s, so that comparison is ridiculous.
- Focus on helping other people instead of on yourself. No matter what your goals and dreams are, the human aspect of those plans should always be first. As long as you consistently strive toward your goals, it will show. Your clients, your customer, your employee, your family member or friend, no matter who is involved, will benefit, even if you don’t succeed. You are still growing.
- Gratitude is a fool-proof antidote for self-pity. If we all remember how many blessings we have and how fortunate we are compared to other people, there is no room for self-pity.
“The secret of being miserable is to have leisure to bother about whether you are happy or not. The cure for it is occupation.” – -George Bernard Shaw
Entitlement is at the root of self-pity. The warped thinking that we deserve success without any effort renders the whole satisfaction of achieving our dreams pointless. In the face of all of our obstacles, anxiety, depression, or haters, are we going to allow self-pity to cloud our thinking and hold us down?
What do you do to escape self-pity?